I’ve been slacking in the blogging world due to life picking up in the real world. My long-distance boyfriend of over a year has just come to The Big Apple to live with me for a bit and it’s brought up so many nice feelings and thoughts about relationships. The long story short is that I’m American, he’s Scottish, and we met at the beginning of our one year holiday visas in Australia. We spent nearly the entire visa together, then traveled some of South East Asia together before I came home due to being devastatingly broke.
While we were separated we spoke constantly through Skype and Facebook messages, wrote in journals to each other when the internet or time difference couldn’t bring us to one another, and thought about each other incessantly. I read a ton of articles about the best way relationships work, the theories of long distance relations, ideas of how genders view romantic emotions, etc. It was all pretty intuitive knowledge, simple and basic advice. Probably most touching was a story I stumbled upon about a couple that has been together for 80 years; they claim that their secret to a happy marriage is to always make time for a kiss and a cuddle.
Life is absolutely blissful now, and through my rose colored eyes I see how and why other relationships don’t work. To me it’s simple, and there are no exceptions to these rules (no matter how hard they may be to follow):
Don’t ever hide, lie, cheat, steal, judge, or seriously berate your significant other. If you catch yourself even thinking about any of these, evaluate the motivation. Are you jealous, insecure, having a bad day, or maybe you’re frustrated because you feel like the relationship is failing? In layman’s terms, check yo-self before you wreck yo-self. When the motivation is found you can figure out the next step, whether it be accepting your own wrong-doing and apologizing, seeing your own over-reaction, or understanding that maybe that person just isn’t the one for you.
It’s important to have similar values and be supportive. Much like the cute old couple article, cuddles and kisses are important, and so are nice little touches and favors. Taking an interest in what they like is a nice touch. These all sound really silly though, right? It’s so obvious. Be moderately affectionate, let them know how you feel, and show them you care, and everything should fall into place.
This is just a really short and sweet description of how I think relationships of any kind can last. It doesn’t take into account serious mental issues or life events, which are ordeals that a ton of couples have to go through, but in general it’s just simple advice. I hope everyone in the world can feel as happy and in love as all the most beautiful and cheesy love songs.